How can we recognize the type of person we are dealing with?

Lama Ole’s answer:

First, look at the body language. If they lean back in their seat and give the impression that they don’t want to listen, then these are anger types and it is better to hold back a little bit. If they come forward and cannot get enough, they are desire types and one can step into the situation completely. And if they look back and forth and don’t know what’s going on, then one is facing a confusion type.

You also see this in the streets: some people almost fall into the shop window because they want everything. Others almost get knocked over by cars because they want to have a lot of distance from everything. And some zigzag here and there, because they don’t know where they want to go. Also the clothing tells a lot—whether it’s form-fitting and shows skin or is instead a bit stiff or clumsy.

I myself am the best example of the desire type. For me it’s almost impossible to remember things I don’t like, and I constantly like everything I see. The anger types, on the other hand, are those who can always find something that they don’t like. There is more distance. Everyone has their box; they are more dignified and courteous. And then there are the philosopher types who have so many ideas and don’t really know what they want.

One should simply try to behave towards others according to their tendencies. The Dharma is good for everybody. The ways are different, but at the goal we are all one again. With this good feeling, one overlooks the differences and tries to use what is best in the moment.