Lama Ole’s answer:
Today people can allow themselves more distance than in the past because partners are not forced to stay together anymore. People aren’t as dependent on one another as they were in earlier times, when there was no social welfare system. What is helpful against this feeling of distance is to imagine that you radiate as much light as possible from your own heart into your partner’s heart or their entire body. Also do this when making love: imagine or deeply feel that you pull the other completely into your heart and hold them there.