How can we avoid jumping into every disturbing emotion and instead use them in a meaningful way?

Lama Ole’s answer:

New ideas come to my mind all the time for this. At the moment, I think the most meaningful method is to consider disturbing emotions as half-finished products. If something in the furnace is still burning, dirty, or botched, then don’t take it out yet. Instead, wait for the completely polished, chrome-plated product.

We can deal with disturbing emotions in the same way. We become aware that anger is the preliminary stage for the experience of mirror-like wisdom. Why should we forgo this radiant experience and indulge the anger? That would be stupid indeed. It is better to wait until the berries are ripe; otherwise they give you a stomachache. If we truly know that every disturbing emotion is the precursor for an enlightened state, then we just wait until the fruit is ripe instead of picking it before.

So if you are angry you can think, “As soon as it is over, I will be extremely insightful, so I will be patient now.” And if you are proud you think, “Very soon I will see the world as exceedingly rich.” Then you won’t act in an angry or proud way. If the attachment is strong then tell yourself, “Soon I will be able to distinguish everything clearly, so I won’t spoil that by acting now.” Or with jealousy you can think, “I will soon be able to recognize many connections into the past and future, so I won’t give in to the emotion now and make a scene.” If you feel stupid, don’t take it seriously—thinking, “I’ll never learn anything”—but instead wait until the clouds of confusion dissolve again, and you will then shine stronger than ever.

This way, everything complements everything else, and there is a lot of development. One has to realize that each disturbing emotion is a kind of wisdom in its true nature, and then wait until this wisdom shows itself.