Don’t you think that one needs to set boundaries in a partnership sometimes?

Lama Ole’s answer:

I don’t think so. But you have to make sure to love your partner for everything they are—for their intelligence, abilities, strength, knowledge, and so on—not only for one thing. Doing this, you take on a complete role and there is no need to limit yourselves. However, if your partner gives you no wiggle room, no space to move, you need to set boundaries and make them understand, for example, that you aren’t their servant or mother or something like that.

Every relationship is rooted in old karma. Shared good actions as well as bad actions generate strong connections. In the current relationship, everything positive and negative you did together before will be experienced together as something pleasant or unpleasant. Karma is really strong, and this is why some people can’t get away from each other. If one partner is really difficult and not ready to change at all, and the other partner is suffering due to this, then I do indeed try to help them split up.

It is better to ruin only one life instead of two. This is especially true in the West, where one has a welfare system and isn’t dependent on one’s partner. It is about doing our best—about benefiting others and ourselves as best we can.